small changes that will improve every single day

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  •  Remember people’s names! This simple yet so powerful habit makes people feel appreciated and they will feel instantly more comfortable around you. Dale Carnegie, one of the most influential mentor on self-improvement and interpersonal skills points out that there is almost nothing that sounds better to us than the sound of our own name. Saying their name back to them when they introduce themselves and repeating the name a couple of times in your mind will help to remember the name.
  • Stay curious everyday! When you walk down the street, observe the architecture, the people and nature around you. feel the weather and listen to the diferent sounds. becoming an explorer, no matter where you aregives you a new perpective and can even enhanceyour mood, creativity and hence your quality of life.
  • Shift your focus on the present. Many people live in the past, regretting things they have done or haven’t done, scolding themselves for things they can’t change anymore, forgetting that right now, in this moment everything is fine. Enjoy THIS moment consciously.  Reflecting on the past is only futile to make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes again. The future is a result of the actions you take today, in the present, so focus on what you can do today as it will determine your future.
  • Smile more often. Your brain does a great trick everytime you get a grin on your face: it releases serotoning, a hormone which makes you feel happy. Smiling is the natural way to force yourself to feel good. Smile at yourself in the mirror or watch a funny clip on youtube to get yourself in a great mood for the day. Just remember that while happiness leads to smiles, smiles also lead to happiness.
  • Stop negative thoughts! They are not only unpleasant but are also wasting your time. Try to think of upcoming events you are looking forward to or listen to cheerful music. Do whatever it takes to get back to a positive mindset as such is essential for continual happiness and success.
  • Help others. There are endless reasons why it’s so important. It will make you feel better and you grow by giving and helping others. Adding a small selfless act to the worlds around you everyday makes you and the people around you feel more comfortable and happy. Even a hello and a smile for the busdriver can make a small positive difference in his day
  • Start your day off right. Wake up and set aside an hour for personal development activities (meditation, self-introspection, setting daily goals, etc.) Do the things that make you feel blissful, optimistic and empowered so that you can set a positive tone for your day. Once you start doing this, your days will be more conscious, enjoyable and fulfilling. Today is going to be the best day of your life!
  • Utilize ‘The Burning Method.’Whenever a fear or worry or complaint comes to mind, close your eyes and imagine writing down the thought on a piece of paper. Then proceed to light the paper and fire and watch it disintegrate. Even better, actually write it down and burn it. You won’t have any problem ridding your mind of the thought after doing this.
  • Learn to be unaffected by the words of others.Most people get very upset when they are called negative names by others, worrying about it all day or even for weeks! But there is a simple trick to overcoming this. Here it is: Reflect for a short time on what they have said. If it’s not true, just erase this negative thought from your mind, be aware that its not true and he or she just said it for reasons that has nothing to do with yourself. Most people tell more about themselves than about the other person when judging this person.The only exception is when someone calls you something that is true! In this case, you should thank them for alerting you to a weakness, one that you can now work on changing.
  • Be the person that makes others feel special.Be known for your kindness and sympathy. It’s so easy to make other people feel good about themselves and thus win new friends who will make you feel good about yourself, too. A book which really is like a guideline on this topic is “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie.
  • Visualize daily.It has been said and proven time and time again that what you focus on is what you get. If you complain all of the time, you will run into more of the things you complain about. The same goes for good things like health, wealth and happiness. So spend some time in the morning imagining yourself achieving whatever it is that you currently desire. Focus is key in this exercise, so choose a quiet environment where you won’t be disturbed.
  • Learn to control your emotions.The only person that can make you unhappy is you! You are the one that decides to be affected by the words and actions of others. Realize this so that the next time you experience a negative emotion, you can find the strength within yourself to overcome it.
  • Work on making good first impressions.Practice a strong, firm handshake and the small talk that generally goes along with meeting someone for the first time. People won’t know what to think of you if you have nothing more to say beyond “My name is _______, nice to meet you.” Also make sure you remember names, as mentioned previously.
  • Keep a journal/diary.It sounds like a very monotonous habit at first, but when you get into it, that little book will become a great way to organize your thoughts and track your growth over the years. Most of us already stay awake in bed at night pondering the events of the day anyways so why not document those thoughts in an organized fashion? That will allow you to look back and observe how your way of thinking has changed over time and therefore help you to understand yourself and your wishes better.
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